Liam

Meeting Liam at the airport

As some of you know, Christina and I had the amazing privilege of once again hosting a child from child through CCAI's winter hosting program. In mid-December, 8 year-old Liam joined us from China and spent several fun and busy weeks with us. Because I myself am not in a position to adopt him, I am looking for a forever family for this amazing little man who would so love to have a mama and baba to call his own. I would be SO grateful if you all would share about Liam with friends, family, coworkers, neighbors, classmates, whoever -- someone knows his forever family, we just have to figure out who!

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Liam is a very happy little guy with the most contagious giggles you'll ever hear, and I have no doubt that he'll bring much joy to his forever family.  

Liam has Down syndrome and a systolic heart murmur, but he doesn't let either of these things slow him down! He is a very energetic and active little guy who enjoys playing outside (at the playground, swinging and going down the slide are favorite activities), but he also is great at entertaining himself indoors by looking at books or "writing" (making marks on paper). He has a great imagination and especially loves to pretend to cook! He plays well with others but just as often seems to enjoy playing independently. Liam loves looking at pictures of himself and of people he knows -- and he can be quite the little ham in front of the camera. He also really enjoys music and will often dance along to songs. He is a great traveler -- not only did he come all the way from China for the hosting program, but he also roadtripped with me & Christina from Texas to Florida and back (and he did a great job)! 

Liam loves to eat -- applesauce, bread, gummy snacks, and goldfish crackers are some of his favorite foods, but he isn't a picky eater at all and eats his fruits and veggies without complaint. He may be sensitive to lactose -- we cut dairy out for the most part after the first week, and he did better after that, but it's hard to know if it was truly the dairy that was problematic or if his body just hadn't adjusted yet to ALL of the new foods.

Liam also has a bit of a mischievous streak -- which isn't a bad thing, but he does sometimes need help redirecting some of his energy to a more positive activity. I did see improvement throughout his time here with his ability to be redirected, and discipline-wise, short "time-ins" where we sat together quietly on the floor were very effective.

Liam is able to dress himself independently for the most part -- he just needs a little help sometimes putting his shirt on and with buttons. He loves to wear button-down shirts! He enjoys brushing his teeth, though he needs a little assistance to make sure he reaches all his teeth. He loves to comb his hair! Liam is currently still in diapers/pull-ups but recognizes when he needs changed, so I think with a little time and practice, he could learn to use the toilet. He did very well at bedtime -- he usually needed me to stay with him until he fell asleep, but generally he fell asleep within 10-20 minutes and he slept well through the night the majority of the time.

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Want more information about Liam or adopting from China? Please ask! Also, for more photos and videos of Liam, check out his page on Facebook or on Instagram!

Princess dress & superhero cape fundraiser

NEW FUNDRAISER: I have been given the opportunity to sell princess dresses and superhero capes to help raise money for Qing Qing's adoption! These are very high quality items and would make great Christmas gifts! So if you have kids/nieces/nephews/grandkids/neighbor kids/students/etc, check these out! Be sure to choose "The Cloutier Family" on the pull-down list to ensure that the funds will go to Qing Qing's adoption. Thank you!!
Capes: tinyurl.com/capesforacause
Dresses: tinyurl.com/dressforacause

And in case you need any more convincing...look how gorgeous Christina is in one of her new princess dresses!

Bracelet & Christmas Ornament fundraiser

I am SO EXCITED about the ApParent Project fundraiser I just launched on Wednesday night! I love this fundraiser because not only will it help me bring Qing Qing home from China, but it also helps Haitian families stay together (and you know I love Haitian families)!

{Soapbox warning!} Way too frequently in Haiti, families turn to orphanages to raise their kids because they don't have the means to provide for themselves & their families, often due to unemployment and/or lack of skills and education. This is a huge problem in Haiti and has resulted in far too many children growing up in institutions, separated from their parents who love them & who wish they could raise their children themselves. Not only that, but only a very small percentage of kids in Haitian orphanages (even those who are "true" orphans with no living parents) will ever be adopted. In recent years, as this problem has become more visible and better understood, more and more organizations in Haiti are turning their attention to this root of the "orphan crisis" in Haiti -- moms and dads who love their kids but need someone to come alongside them to help them get on their feet, through health care, education, skills training, and jobs.

ApParent Project is one of these organizations. From the AP website: "Our focus is on our mission… to “make the needs of Haiti known,” to offer opportunities for the Haitians be able to provide for themselves and their families, empowering them to rise up out of poverty… to be able to keep their families together… to avoid relinquishing their children to orphanages." One of the ways AP does this is by employing artisans to make beautiful handmade products -- not only jewelry and ornaments, but also coffee mugs, purses, wall art, dolls, and more. By providing jobs for these men and women, AP is helping to keep kids out of orphanages & with their families...thereby helping to ensure a stronger and better future for not just these families, but also for the generations to come.

So. All that to say, I am so excited to get to do this fundraiser & to be a small part of what AP is doing for families in Haiti while also working to bring Qing Qing home to our family! Here is a short video that shows more about how ApParent Project works:

This fundraiser is mainly happening on Facebook (so if you want to check it out there, search for "Becoming Forever Cloutier Adoption Fundraising"), but I wanted to post about it here, too, in case anyone who isnt on Facebook is interested in purchasing. I'll try to keep it updated here (when items sell), but there may be a bit of a delay (so just be aware when you request an item, there's a chance it may have already sold on Facebook). Here is how this will work:

To claim your item, comment on this post (or email/text me) with the item(s) you would like & how you plan to pay.

Payment options are:
1. Paypal: https://www.paypal.me/BethCloutier
2. Check (let me know if you need my address)
3. Cash (local buyers only)

Each item is $10; if you need me to ship your purchase to you, please add $5 (total, not per item).

Let me know if you have any questions! Happy shopping!

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Meet Qing Qing

Qing Qing's hosting profile -- hers was one of about 10 that I
received of kids who were still in need of host families when
I started thinking & praying about hosting in late March 2016.

This is a bit overdue, considering I'm already about a month and a half (give or take) into the adoption process, but for those of you who didn't have an opportunity to meet Qing Qing when she stayed with us this summer, I thought I would give a little introduction (though if you've followed my posts on social media over the last few months, you've already gotten to see a glimpse of how amazing and sweet she is)!

Qing Qing just turned 11 at the beginning of this month, and she loves coloring, reading books, Disney princesses, playing in the pool, dancing, popsicles and Goldfish crackers, and folding laundry (yes, really)! She also is an excellent car napper -- she usually fell asleep in the car within 10 minutes while she was here, no matter where we were going! Like Christina, Qing Qing is very good at "going with the flow" -- although so much of the three weeks she spent in the US was brand new to her, she pretty much took everything in stride, even the insane July Texas heat! She also is very smart & quick to catch on to things, even in a new culture and a new language! She loves to be a helper & was my little sidekick for everything from cooking meals & making beds to helping Christina with her shoes & putting groceries in the shopping cart. And best of all, she and Christina became fast friends; the bond that developed between the two of them even in such a short time was absolutely beautiful to see. I am so excited to see this relationship grow even more once they're officially SISTERS!

Medically speaking, Qing Qing has Down syndrome and also had surgery when she was seven to repair a hole in her heart. Currently, she is very healthy and isn't under any medical restrictions, though we'll follow up with a cardiologist when she comes back to the US to make sure her heart is still doing well! She is somewhat delayed developmentally, but as I already mentioned, I was very impressed while she was here at how quickly she caught on to things and her overall independence in doing tasks and "ADLs" (activities of daily living). 

Currently, it's looking like the adoption process will likely be complete sometime between the end of

next spring and maybe the middle of summer, if all goes well. I'm nearing the end of the first big stage of the process -- compiling everything for my dossier -- and after that my dossier will go to China for the CCCWA (China Center for Children's Welfare and Adoption) to process and decide whether or not they will officially approve me to adopt Qing Qing (I received "soft" approval at the beginning of August). So for now, it's lots of prayers, paperwork, fundraising, and more prayers & paperwork! :) I'm so grateful for all of the many people who have supported me time and time again through prayers, participating in fundraisers, and sending a note (or text or email) of encouragement along the way -- I could not do this alone! I wish there was a stronger way to say "thank you," but since that's the best I can do, how about I also throw in the Kreyol and Mandarin: Mesi & 谢谢 (Xièxiè)!!!

Hi friends! I know it's been forever & a day since I've updated this blog, but...I do still exist, as a matter of fact. And, I have some exciting news (which I will attempt to share in more detail at some later point in time when I'm not coming off a night shift, which is currently the case). The quick version is, I'm in the early stages of finally making Christina officially part of my forever family through adoption (yay!!), and I just launched a T-shirt fundraiser to help with the financial side of this endeavor. Tiffany McLeod came up with an awesome design that I'm SO excited to share, and I can't wait to have it on my very own T-shirt! Here it is:

The design will be available on a navy shirt and a purple shirt, and there are several styles available to choose from. Here are the links: navy and purple. The shirts will be available to purchase for the next three weeks, and then they will be shipped out approximately two weeks after the fundraiser closes. I've said this many times before and I'll say it many times again, but I am SO GRATEFUL for the huge amount of support Christina & I have from family, friends, coworkers, and even people I haven't seen in quite awhile. So whether or not you buy a shirt (though I hope you do 😊), please know how much your prayers & encouragement mean to me and Christina! Love y'all lots!

UPDATE: Here I Am Orphan Ministries has graciously offered to accept fee-free, tax-deductible donations on our behalf! So, if a T-shirt isn't really your thing but you still would like to financially support us, you can do that here. Under "One Time Donation," choose "Adoption Assistance." Before you submit your payment, there will be a comment box where you can put in my name and "Christina's adoption" to designate it for us.

Also, for those of you who want to hear the very very beginning of our story, here's a post I wrote back in 2010...

And then, to fast forward to Easter 2016...

Things have changed a bit in the last six years. 😊 And I am oh so grateful!

Haiti on my mind: an introduction

the day I met Lina

If you've known me for more than a few days (or even hours, or minutes), you likely know that Haiti is very close to my heart. When I was 9, God brought my youngest sister, Lina, into our family, and it's no exaggeration to say that her adoption has had a bigger impact on my life (and on my family) than any other event or circumstance I've ever experienced, besides God's gracious and merciful gift of salvation. I honestly cannot picture what my life would be like today had we not adopted Lina. Not only did I gain an amazing and beautiful sister on that chilly March day back in 1996, but God also set me on a path of invaluable experiential learning - among others, about disability, of caring for the least of these, and about the country in which Lina was born: Haiti, the land of contrast.

My parents first traveled to Haiti in 1998 -- for a quick visit, just to learn more about this place where their youngest daughter was born. When they stepped off that plane in Port au Prince for the first time, greeted by that now-so-familiar warm breeze and the cacophony of uniquely Haitian sights, sounds, and smells, I doubt they had any idea of what was ahead. A quick trip, that's all; just a glimpse into Lina's native culture so that someday in the future, when she was older, we might have a few photos, maybe some souvenirs, and a story or two to tell her about that distant country where her life began. In, out, done. Simple enough, right?

Ha. If I've learned anything over the years, it's that NOTHING involving Haiti is simple, and that God's plans are almost always very different (and oh-so-much better) than ours.

And so, my parents came home with photos, souvenirs, stories...and the news that we were adopting again. While in Haiti, they had stayed at Notre Maison, the orphanage for children with special needs where Lina spent the first 7 months of her life. Also at this orphanage were James and Andre, who were both about three years old at the time; my parents felt led to begin the adoption process for these two. Again, God's plans are often different from ours, and, while we did eventually adopt James, my dad's sister actually ended up adopting Andre (but that's a story for a different time, perhaps).

About eleven months after my parents' initial trip, I made my first trek to that place that I now consider my second home. I desperately wish that I had kept a journal on this trip; sadly, the only time I opened my Winnie the Pooh diary (don't judge.) during those two weeks was to shake out the ants that had invaded the unfortunately blank pages. I would pay a lot of money to have written documentation of my first impressions of Haiti, but alas, all I have are a few snippets of memories. Like passing out in the courtyard while waiting to see the judge about our adoption paperwork. And enduring much pointing and staring due, not only to my whiteness, but also to the multitudinous ant bites covering my face. And learning to shower in a bucket, and to save and utilize every spare drop of water. And my first experience with "Haitian Happiness." Ugh.

I also remember the beautiful children. Especially sweet Darlyne, who, despite her disability which prevented her from being able to speak or walk, scooted herself around on the floor, tenderly caring for the babies.

Darlyne

I remember the sweet, high-pitched voice of my new brother, who, though shy, could occasionally be convinced to repeat a few words in English; no one else has ever said "silly, silly, silly!" in such an adorable manner.

I remember seeing the stars from the roof of Notre Maison... If you've ever been to Haiti, you'll agree: there are no stars like Haiti stars. Magnificent. Particularly from out in the country (though it was several years still before I discovered this).

at the Baptist Mission

I remember sitting on the bench in the back of a rickety truck, making the long, bumpy drive through ridiculous traffic up to the Baptist Mission, marveling that James could sleep through it all.

I remember being so mad on Thanksgiving Day, thinking of all the feasting that was going on in the United States, while all the kids at the orphanage had to eat was peanut butter on bread. Life is not fair. But...there is hope: "The LORD is a stronghold for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble...For the needy shall not always be forgotten, and the hope of the poor shall not perish forever." (Psalm 9:9,18)

I remember hearing Lellen, one of the nannies at Notre Maison, do lessons with some of the children, singing songs and pointing out pictures and having the children repeat the English name (buh-TARE-fly!)

Mom and James

I remember waiting with my mom outside of a grocery store at dusk. A young Haitian girl came up to us, clearly asking for something, but all we could do was smile and say m pa pale kreyol (I don't speak Kreyol). The girl giggled and walked away.

On second thought, I guess I do have a few more memories from that trip than I realized. But regardless of what I do or don't specifically remember, there is no doubt that during those two weeks God definitely gave me a love for Haiti and her people that has been challenged, questioned, deepened, and continues to be refined. Through all of my experiences in this country (which range from amazing to horrible, thrilling to terrifying, kinda weird to utterly ridiculous, etc, etc), God has taught me so many life lessons. Some have been more easily learned than others; many have come out of difficult and often painful situations (but how wonderful it is that God redeems even these times!). Most of these lessons I am still learning...slowly but surely.

When I began this post, I was planning on writing about Heartline and a new aspect of their ministry that is currently in the works. I do still plan to write about this because I really am so excited about it (and about everything God is accomplishing through Heartline in Haiti), but that'll have to wait until later (tomorrow, perhaps?). If you want to go ahead and see what's going on (if you haven't already done so the other times I've posted these links; I'm telling you, I'm excited!), visit Heartline's website here, the blog about the new teen moms home here, and Heather Hendrick's post here.

Until then, can I just say... I am so utterly amazed at God's providence and the way He works. He truly is sovereign over every detail; the way He puts each piece together and what He does with them is just incredible. Forgive me, Lord, for ever thinking that I'm the one in control of my life!

For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways, declares the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts. (Isaiah 55:8-9)